Jealousy. Isn't that just an everyday, slightly uglier than Arkansas humidity taking it's toll on my hair, part of life?
Every day may be pushing it, but I know that things happen that make me feel jealous, and I hate it. Jealousy is ugly and unbecoming. But there's a short list of things that will just do it to ya, no matter who you are, no matter how great your life is, no matter how awesome your husband is, no matter how many years you've been married, no matter how hard to try to not be jealous; it happens.
What are those things?
Hmm.. Let's see. Ex-Girlfriends. That's the one thing that makes me so jealous, so easily.. and the subject of exes is sometimes much more popular than you want it to be.
Hmm.. you're in luck, ladies and gents, looks like that's actually the beginning and end of my list. Oh, yours too? Maybe or maybe not. Well, here's the deal. This topic isn't to dwell on the past, but this blog is supposed to be from a young, married girl's point of view, so there it is. Oh sure, there are girls who could waltz right up to your husband and give him a big ole smack on the hind cheeks and squish his cheeks together and just sugar him all over and you wouldn't care. It'd be like his grandma touching him. You don't mind, cause you're not that crazy. But then there are a handful of girls that would just about get the Special Weapons And Tactics team called on you, cause if they so much as look at your man with both of their eyes, it's on.
Don't tell me that maybe one face didn't pop up in your head; it's okay, you really don't have to tell me.
I also hear some girls say that they don't get jealous, they're too confident to be jealous. Then you've got the "I'm only jealous because I care" girls. Then you've got some who are right in the middle of psycho stalker and way too chill.
I'm not gonna act like I haven't had some crazy, psycho moments where I've just wanted to call up a chick and have a "hey, there's an 'ex' in front of 'girlfriend' and you. are. it. so why you tryin' to chat it up with my man" moment. But regardless of the crazy things I've said and done and the crazy things that you've said and done, just remember: you. are. it. You're not the ex. You're the girlfriend. Or the wife. The one he loves; the guy who gets hair all over the sink and it makes you so mad that you can't handle it? Yeah, him. He loves you, even though you have your insane female moments and talk about girls that he probably hasn't thought about in years. Even though he looks at you like he might be scared to ever make you mad, because now he's seen that you probably are crazy enough to dispose of his body.
Marriage is so much more than talking about exes. They really have no part in your life, your conversations. It's good, important even, to have exes. You learn lessons about yourself and other people that you might not have learned without that person. But then, like every other part of the past, you leave that person in the past, and carry those lessons learned with you, to the future.
So, next time you see someone who has had a romantic history with that guy you love, don't get all crazy and cross-eyed. Instead, remember that he chose you, you chose him, and life is good. Trust me, you'll feel so much better about yourself.
Now, go tell your husband you love him.
Tuesday, September 23, 2014
Sunday, September 14, 2014
Date Night.
In a perfect world of young married life, every couple would set aside one night out of the week to go out together and enjoy themselves.. pure bliss. They would call it date night. On date night, no one would worry about the bills, feel guilty about spending fifteen dollars to see a movie that will probably be out on DVD soon, and nobody would dream of not noticing how beautiful (or handsome) their wife (or husband) looked. Too bad, huh? Too bad that date nights do exist, but they're nowhere near perfection. Too bad that as a wife, or maybe as a female, I can't look at a movie ticket without thinking "Redbox is so much cheaper." And if you do what I do, do what I do next. Think back to how you spend your weekdays. Do you have one of the nasty J words? Yeah, I said it. J-O-B. If you do, stop feeling guilty! I'm not saying blow all your money, but stop feeling guilty about the movie you see once a month, the dinners you go out to because you hate cooking and don't want to are too tired from work to make a delicious meal, the purse you bought yourself because it's been a year since you had a new one (a year is a long time in the life of my purse).
Just stop. You work, you make money. You deserve to have a little bit of happiness. That's what a movie and some potato soup from Colton's brings me anyway- happiness.
Back to date night.
Whoever came up with the idea of a date night; brilliant. It's not their fault that when I hear date night, I think of a horse drawn carriage, little black dress, handsome date in a tux, candle lit dinner, gifts of diamonds, etc. Probably because in One Tree Hill, Nathan tried to pick Haley up in a horse drawn carriage, greatly increasing my expectations. (If you haven't gotten the hint yet, I love OTH and highly encourage you to veg out on the couch and watch it for dayzzz).
Reality of date night: it's a night to get away from the house, enjoy some time with your spouse (or boyfriend, girlfriend, whatever), not have to cook dinner and have some fun. Number one tip: try not to get into an argument on date night. Try not to get into arguments, period, but especially on date night. Why? Because it's date night. It's really hard to be romantic and lovey dovey when you're fighting over the radio and temperature in the vehicle. Hold hands on date night. It's really hard for Cory to be mad at me when we're holding hands. But sometimes we fight because he won't hold my hand. Like he needs two hands to push the buggy in Wal Mart. Go figure.
Also, if you go on date nights every night, it's no longer date night. It's not special. It's the norm. So, keep it special. Once a week, once every two weeks. Heck, if you're me and Cory, once every six months. We eat ice cream and watch Netflix on the reg, so life is pretty great. It would be hard to have a date night top watching One Tree Hill and eating Rocky Road, would it not?
Date night doesn't mean drive to Vegas or go sky diving.. just do something that you and your S.O. enjoy, even if it's just bowling. Golfing (I hate golf, but hey, maybe some man is lucky enough to have a golf loving wife). Watching lame movies (Cory thinks every movie I pick is lame). Maybe going on a picnic. Looking at the stars. Whatever you're doing, you're doing it with someone that you love.
Date nights don't have to involve spending a lot of money, because face it. Sometimes we're just flat broke. No money for movies. No money for steak dinners. No money for renting ugly shoes to throw a heavy ball down a lane. No money period. That's where picnics and stargazing come in. If Cory asked me to go lay in the truck bed and look at the stars, I'd probably think he was on drugs or think that he wanted something huge, like a new truck or something. Nonetheless, I'd do it. Free and cute. Just the way I like.
Date night.
Keep your expectations simple: have fun. Wherever, whatever- just enjoy yourselves.
And then, do it again.
Date nights forever.
Just stop. You work, you make money. You deserve to have a little bit of happiness. That's what a movie and some potato soup from Colton's brings me anyway- happiness.
Back to date night.
Whoever came up with the idea of a date night; brilliant. It's not their fault that when I hear date night, I think of a horse drawn carriage, little black dress, handsome date in a tux, candle lit dinner, gifts of diamonds, etc. Probably because in One Tree Hill, Nathan tried to pick Haley up in a horse drawn carriage, greatly increasing my expectations. (If you haven't gotten the hint yet, I love OTH and highly encourage you to veg out on the couch and watch it for dayzzz).
Reality of date night: it's a night to get away from the house, enjoy some time with your spouse (or boyfriend, girlfriend, whatever), not have to cook dinner and have some fun. Number one tip: try not to get into an argument on date night. Try not to get into arguments, period, but especially on date night. Why? Because it's date night. It's really hard to be romantic and lovey dovey when you're fighting over the radio and temperature in the vehicle. Hold hands on date night. It's really hard for Cory to be mad at me when we're holding hands. But sometimes we fight because he won't hold my hand. Like he needs two hands to push the buggy in Wal Mart. Go figure.
Also, if you go on date nights every night, it's no longer date night. It's not special. It's the norm. So, keep it special. Once a week, once every two weeks. Heck, if you're me and Cory, once every six months. We eat ice cream and watch Netflix on the reg, so life is pretty great. It would be hard to have a date night top watching One Tree Hill and eating Rocky Road, would it not?
Date night doesn't mean drive to Vegas or go sky diving.. just do something that you and your S.O. enjoy, even if it's just bowling. Golfing (I hate golf, but hey, maybe some man is lucky enough to have a golf loving wife). Watching lame movies (Cory thinks every movie I pick is lame). Maybe going on a picnic. Looking at the stars. Whatever you're doing, you're doing it with someone that you love.
Date nights don't have to involve spending a lot of money, because face it. Sometimes we're just flat broke. No money for movies. No money for steak dinners. No money for renting ugly shoes to throw a heavy ball down a lane. No money period. That's where picnics and stargazing come in. If Cory asked me to go lay in the truck bed and look at the stars, I'd probably think he was on drugs or think that he wanted something huge, like a new truck or something. Nonetheless, I'd do it. Free and cute. Just the way I like.
Date night.
Keep your expectations simple: have fun. Wherever, whatever- just enjoy yourselves.
And then, do it again.
Date nights forever.
Wednesday, September 10, 2014
Work It Out.
First, for all of you that think it's been a while since I posted, just know that I did post.. and then accidentally deleted it when I was trying to delete a draft. So that was a good day.
Second, the title of this post is two-fold. Work it out. As in, exercise. Also, as in arguments.
Arguments.. easier to work out than the body most of the time. According to me, anyways. I'd rather think of a jillion ways to end a fight than increase my heart rate.
Is that just how life is when you get married? Life is busy. You work, he works. It seems like surely the time that you have off together should be spent together, not doing other things like working out. Right? WRONG.
I had that mindset for a little while. It was almost like I felt guilty for spending time doing something other than being with Cory. On a typical day, he wakes up at the crack of dawn, I wake up later than that, we both go to work, I get home around 5:30, he gets home between 6:30 and 8:00.. we're ready to eat, bathe and go to bed. Who has time to spread love and kind words and work out too?! We tried to work out together, but his legs are the length of my body, so we don't run well together. He's just too fast. So there went that. Besides, running is my favorite form of exercise and it's not his. It just wasn't a good fit.
So once I decided I was too busy to work out, I just kinda went with it. Working, crafting, eating, cooking (hamburger helper and the like, of course).
Point is, I got tired of looking in the mirror and seeing something that I knew could be better if I would make time for working out. I was using getting married as an excuse.
So, newlyweds, (and not newlyweds) your husband loves you. Big or small, short or tall, they love us all. But are you loving yourself enough to be the healthiest version of you that you can be?
Maybe I'm completely rambling, but I feel like I see this happen all the time. Life (& marriage, sometimes) gets in the way of being healthy.
So, I'm working out. I'm running. Not every day. But Cory doesn't complain, I can tell you that. He's probably thinking "Hallelujah, praise Jesus. Bout time that girl got her run on."
He never complained about me gaining weight; they won't if they're smart. But he's not complaining about the 20-30 minutes I spend running either.
Hey, do you. Work out. Find your girl time. Be the best you.
Second, the title of this post is two-fold. Work it out. As in, exercise. Also, as in arguments.
Arguments.. easier to work out than the body most of the time. According to me, anyways. I'd rather think of a jillion ways to end a fight than increase my heart rate.
Is that just how life is when you get married? Life is busy. You work, he works. It seems like surely the time that you have off together should be spent together, not doing other things like working out. Right? WRONG.
I had that mindset for a little while. It was almost like I felt guilty for spending time doing something other than being with Cory. On a typical day, he wakes up at the crack of dawn, I wake up later than that, we both go to work, I get home around 5:30, he gets home between 6:30 and 8:00.. we're ready to eat, bathe and go to bed. Who has time to spread love and kind words and work out too?! We tried to work out together, but his legs are the length of my body, so we don't run well together. He's just too fast. So there went that. Besides, running is my favorite form of exercise and it's not his. It just wasn't a good fit.
So once I decided I was too busy to work out, I just kinda went with it. Working, crafting, eating, cooking (hamburger helper and the like, of course).
Point is, I got tired of looking in the mirror and seeing something that I knew could be better if I would make time for working out. I was using getting married as an excuse.
So, newlyweds, (and not newlyweds) your husband loves you. Big or small, short or tall, they love us all. But are you loving yourself enough to be the healthiest version of you that you can be?
Maybe I'm completely rambling, but I feel like I see this happen all the time. Life (& marriage, sometimes) gets in the way of being healthy.
So, I'm working out. I'm running. Not every day. But Cory doesn't complain, I can tell you that. He's probably thinking "Hallelujah, praise Jesus. Bout time that girl got her run on."
He never complained about me gaining weight; they won't if they're smart. But he's not complaining about the 20-30 minutes I spend running either.
Hey, do you. Work out. Find your girl time. Be the best you.
Monday, September 1, 2014
3 Things My Husband Has In Common With Nathan Scott.
Alright, y'all. Cory has specifically requested that I not write personal things about him, though I can't imagine why he wouldn't want the whole world to know every charming thing about him that I know.
Actually, considering I know now only charming things, but embarrassing things, I might be able to understand..
Anways, sharing common knowledge facts can't be something that will get me into trouble, surely..
If you aren't familiar with One Tree Hill, I can't be responsible if you don't understand the references, and the fact that I'm totally fan girl-ing right now. That being said, here goes.
1. High school jock
"In season one, Nathan was introduced as the selfish, jock basketball player for the Tree Hill Ravens."
I'm not referring to "jock" as a bad thing at all. It's endearing really. They ball hard, they play hard- and sometimes it's not just the game of basketball that they're playing. Not to say that my now charming husband is a player, oh no. Quite the opposite really. Like Nathan Scott, Cory has outgrown that game. Now he plays the game of "Try Not to Anger Your Wife Today." It's much harder and requires much more mental strength. On a day to day basis, his stats are going strong.
2. Pretty Boy
Funny story, but long before I came along, Cory took some classes with a couple of my cousins. He didn't know that, of course, considering the size of my family is approximately ginormous, and trying to find a Dixon in a classroom is like trying to find a bobby-pin in my hair: pointless. Moral of this story is that my sweet little cousins didn't know his name, so they referred to him as Pretty Boy. I think Cory finds this nickname offensive, perhaps, but for the life of me, I have no idea why. It could completely be the fact that I'm married to him, but I certain agree that he's the prettiest boy around! (If you don't know how this relates to Nathan Scott, allow Google to help you out. Like now.. he's pretty pretty as well).
3. He's a Lover and a Fighter
For you faithful One Tree Hillers, you know that Nathan and Haley faced and overcame many obstacles. For you married ladies and gents, you know that's just a part of life.. and marriage. There were so many points that they could've just called it quits- we all could. But we don't. Because what is life without the one you love? We could probably all agree that Nathan said it best- "What I'm feeling is definitely not normal. And to be honest with you Haley, I don't ever want to be normal. Not with you." Don't get weak in the knees and jealous of my life, Cory hasn't made it to saying those exact words just yet. Point being, Nathan fought for Haley, and I have no doubt Cory would do the same, not just because he'd be without clean undies, but I think that for some reason or another, he loves me just as much as fictional Nathan loved fictional Haley.
Okay, so maybe this post was just a little reminder to myself that love on Netflix and love in real life aren't the same. Maybe it was to remind myself that no matter how good it seems on Netflix, those people don't face the day to day struggles that real life married couples do. Nathan and Haley fought over her riding off on tour to be a rock star. Cory and Cindi fight over who gets to take the car in for an oil change. Nonetheless, I encourage you to find yourself a close to perfect TV star and compare him/her to your husband/wife, not to see who has bigger muscles or more money or anything shallow, but for this reason: you realize how many cute, quirky attributes your real life partner has, and you know what makes them so great? They're your real life.
"You can drive at sixteen, go to war at eighteen and drink at twenty-one. So how old do you have to be for your love to be real?"
-One Tree Hill
2. Pretty Boy
Funny story, but long before I came along, Cory took some classes with a couple of my cousins. He didn't know that, of course, considering the size of my family is approximately ginormous, and trying to find a Dixon in a classroom is like trying to find a bobby-pin in my hair: pointless. Moral of this story is that my sweet little cousins didn't know his name, so they referred to him as Pretty Boy. I think Cory finds this nickname offensive, perhaps, but for the life of me, I have no idea why. It could completely be the fact that I'm married to him, but I certain agree that he's the prettiest boy around! (If you don't know how this relates to Nathan Scott, allow Google to help you out. Like now.. he's pretty pretty as well).
3. He's a Lover and a Fighter
For you faithful One Tree Hillers, you know that Nathan and Haley faced and overcame many obstacles. For you married ladies and gents, you know that's just a part of life.. and marriage. There were so many points that they could've just called it quits- we all could. But we don't. Because what is life without the one you love? We could probably all agree that Nathan said it best- "What I'm feeling is definitely not normal. And to be honest with you Haley, I don't ever want to be normal. Not with you." Don't get weak in the knees and jealous of my life, Cory hasn't made it to saying those exact words just yet. Point being, Nathan fought for Haley, and I have no doubt Cory would do the same, not just because he'd be without clean undies, but I think that for some reason or another, he loves me just as much as fictional Nathan loved fictional Haley.
Okay, so maybe this post was just a little reminder to myself that love on Netflix and love in real life aren't the same. Maybe it was to remind myself that no matter how good it seems on Netflix, those people don't face the day to day struggles that real life married couples do. Nathan and Haley fought over her riding off on tour to be a rock star. Cory and Cindi fight over who gets to take the car in for an oil change. Nonetheless, I encourage you to find yourself a close to perfect TV star and compare him/her to your husband/wife, not to see who has bigger muscles or more money or anything shallow, but for this reason: you realize how many cute, quirky attributes your real life partner has, and you know what makes them so great? They're your real life.
"You can drive at sixteen, go to war at eighteen and drink at twenty-one. So how old do you have to be for your love to be real?"
-One Tree Hill
Saturday, August 30, 2014
Are We Having a Baby Soon?
I feel that there are a few major accomplishments in life. They differ for everyone, but here are a few: graduating high school, getting a college degree, buying a house, getting married, establishing a career and having children.
At the age of 21, I have accomplished all but one of these.
Where am I going with this?
Well, part of having a job that requires your patient to be laid back with mouths wide open means they ask you questions that you have to talk about for a long time; i.e. "how did you and your husband meet?" "what's your hometown like?" and my personal favorite "why don't you tell me about yourself?" All of those questions are great conversation starters, and other than feeling like I'm at a job interview or something just as intimidating, I typically like to have these sort of conversations with my patients.
However, as soon as I mention that I'm married, the topic turns to babies. Don't get me wrong, babies are great. They're little rockets of puke and poop that disturb the peace and cut into all of your Netflix time. Just kidding. Many of you are probably moms, and kudos to you. I am not quite ready to not be selfish. I know that a huge part of your life is no longer yours when you have kids. It's insane to think that life will ever be the same after babies.
Granted, this post won't be able to cover my every thought and feeling on young married couples and babies, but bear with me. For some couples, getting married and then having a baby soon after works for them. That's what they want and that's great! They're great moms and dads and life is good. On the other hand, I know people who have been married for six years and haven't had a baby yet, and everyone on the planet is wondering why and oh so ready for them to have a baby, but you know what? They're 24ish. That's probably why they haven't had kids yet. Like marriage, I feel that children don't come with an age. There's no certain age you should get married. You don't even have to ever get married. You don't have to have or not have children at a certain age. Heck, you don't ever have to have them. For me, marriage and children come with maturity.
I have literally seen couples who have been married for 8 years and dated for a billion before that, and I would never let them even babysit my nonexistent baby. That may sound harsh, but come on. You know that there are friends/family members/whoever that you pray are never the last people on planet Earth that you would have to have be guardian and protector of your child for even 2 hours. Probably because they aren't mature enough to put a baby's needs before a video game, or patient enough to let a baby cry it out and then move along with life.
Right now, I don't want a baby. I don't want my sleep interrupted, I don't want to not go see a movie I want, I don't want to have another human life depending on me. Isn't it better that I know that now instead of after having a baby?
What really sent me on this small rant was that everybody. every. body. has been asking me this. Are we going to have a baby soon? Are we thinking about starting a family? Oh my word, we're still thinking "I have to cook dinner every night?!" and "Why doesn't Cory make the bed?" Okay, that's not "we" thinking, it's just me. Regardless, the final straw- I went to get my nails done yesterday and as soon as the girl asked if I was married, she asked if we had kids or wanted to have any soon. Considering the fact that I still look like I'm about 14, I know she was only asking because I'm married. Since when did getting married become the stepping stone right before parenthood?
Hey, if you're one of the people that has asked if we're having a baby soon, want to have kids in the near future, etc., let's get this clear-- I am NOT mad at you. And for those of you who know me well enough to say "Don't do it yet. Enjoy some time just the two of you. Wait a while to have kids," thanks.
My only point is this- everyone is different. Every person, every couple. Young marriage faces enough challenges of it's own without having a baby. I honestly can't imagine having a baby right now, and guess what? That's so so so fine. Because it's my life that changes when I have a baby. And I'm only TWENTY-ONE. Most 21 year old females are still in college, or just graduating and starting their jobs. Isn't that a big enough life accomplishment for now? I think it is.
I completely expect a jillion more people to ask me about this topic, and I'll just keep smiling and explaining that I don't have shirts that I want puke on just yet. God's timing is perfect, no doubt. When it's time, it'll be time. Until then, I'm going to enjoy a toy free zone.
So, in answer to the title, no.
At the age of 21, I have accomplished all but one of these.
Where am I going with this?
Well, part of having a job that requires your patient to be laid back with mouths wide open means they ask you questions that you have to talk about for a long time; i.e. "how did you and your husband meet?" "what's your hometown like?" and my personal favorite "why don't you tell me about yourself?" All of those questions are great conversation starters, and other than feeling like I'm at a job interview or something just as intimidating, I typically like to have these sort of conversations with my patients.
However, as soon as I mention that I'm married, the topic turns to babies. Don't get me wrong, babies are great. They're little rockets of puke and poop that disturb the peace and cut into all of your Netflix time. Just kidding. Many of you are probably moms, and kudos to you. I am not quite ready to not be selfish. I know that a huge part of your life is no longer yours when you have kids. It's insane to think that life will ever be the same after babies.
Granted, this post won't be able to cover my every thought and feeling on young married couples and babies, but bear with me. For some couples, getting married and then having a baby soon after works for them. That's what they want and that's great! They're great moms and dads and life is good. On the other hand, I know people who have been married for six years and haven't had a baby yet, and everyone on the planet is wondering why and oh so ready for them to have a baby, but you know what? They're 24ish. That's probably why they haven't had kids yet. Like marriage, I feel that children don't come with an age. There's no certain age you should get married. You don't even have to ever get married. You don't have to have or not have children at a certain age. Heck, you don't ever have to have them. For me, marriage and children come with maturity.
I have literally seen couples who have been married for 8 years and dated for a billion before that, and I would never let them even babysit my nonexistent baby. That may sound harsh, but come on. You know that there are friends/family members/whoever that you pray are never the last people on planet Earth that you would have to have be guardian and protector of your child for even 2 hours. Probably because they aren't mature enough to put a baby's needs before a video game, or patient enough to let a baby cry it out and then move along with life.
Right now, I don't want a baby. I don't want my sleep interrupted, I don't want to not go see a movie I want, I don't want to have another human life depending on me. Isn't it better that I know that now instead of after having a baby?
What really sent me on this small rant was that everybody. every. body. has been asking me this. Are we going to have a baby soon? Are we thinking about starting a family? Oh my word, we're still thinking "I have to cook dinner every night?!" and "Why doesn't Cory make the bed?" Okay, that's not "we" thinking, it's just me. Regardless, the final straw- I went to get my nails done yesterday and as soon as the girl asked if I was married, she asked if we had kids or wanted to have any soon. Considering the fact that I still look like I'm about 14, I know she was only asking because I'm married. Since when did getting married become the stepping stone right before parenthood?
Hey, if you're one of the people that has asked if we're having a baby soon, want to have kids in the near future, etc., let's get this clear-- I am NOT mad at you. And for those of you who know me well enough to say "Don't do it yet. Enjoy some time just the two of you. Wait a while to have kids," thanks.
My only point is this- everyone is different. Every person, every couple. Young marriage faces enough challenges of it's own without having a baby. I honestly can't imagine having a baby right now, and guess what? That's so so so fine. Because it's my life that changes when I have a baby. And I'm only TWENTY-ONE. Most 21 year old females are still in college, or just graduating and starting their jobs. Isn't that a big enough life accomplishment for now? I think it is.
I completely expect a jillion more people to ask me about this topic, and I'll just keep smiling and explaining that I don't have shirts that I want puke on just yet. God's timing is perfect, no doubt. When it's time, it'll be time. Until then, I'm going to enjoy a toy free zone.
So, in answer to the title, no.
Friday, August 29, 2014
All American Girl.
Ahh, dating. I see the whole point of dating as a means to find someone that you love, someone to marry. There are people that date for fun, but how does that usually turn out if all they're looking for is fun? Broken hearts. His or hers. Someone puts more into it than the other and then bam. You've got a girl eating ice cream, crying and snotting on her best friend, wondering why she wasn't good enough. We've all been there, done that. I saw different ways of dating in other countries and thought they'd be fun facts to share!
Dating Fact: In Brazil, two people who fancy one another will usually go out in groups first to see if they like one another. Solo dates will typically only happen should it be leading to a relationship! Now that’s serious.
Okay, I guess it's not a terrible idea to go out in groups. It could prevent all sorts of things, like date rape, dating psycho killers, etc. However, I'd say it's a little drastic to only go out solo if you're interested in a long term relationship. I mean, people act so differently in group settings than one on one. Guys are too cool to talk to you in a group, but all they really want to do is talk to you. So take it from me, guys, if you like a girl, ask her out. Not out to go with your buddies to a burger joint. Out on a real date. Just the two of you. Unless you're a psycho killer.. then you should probably just not ask her out at all.
Dating Fact: In France, there’s no conversation of whether or not you’re actually in a relationship. The French are much more laid-back when it comes to dating, meaning they don’t really believe in the whole concept of dating all that much. You’re either not dating or you’re together. Confusing, no?
Confusing, no. I'm not French, I'm an all American girl, so if you want to be in a relationship, you'd better shout it from the rooftops or I'm gonna find a guy that will! Dating exclusively leads to less broken hearts. French "not dating" leads to all kinds of people thinking they've got dibs on the hottie with abs, while he's got dibs on every girl in a bikini.. confusing, no?
Dating Fact: Ever heard of being fashionably late? Not in Japan, you haven’t! When someone gives you a set time, and you don’t show up exactly when you said you’d be there, you’d better have a catastrophic excuse or risk never being spoken to again. Better never than late!
I'd never make it in Japan. It's not that we, as females, try to be late to every appointment, date or interview known to man. But sometimes things happen. You notice you've got a stray strand of your Afro sticking straight up that needs hair-sprayed down real quick before you leave. There's a cup in the sink you could throw in the dishwasher. You leave and wonder if you locked your door.. there's no sure way to know so you go back to check. It happens. Cory tells me that if I'm not early, I'm late. So I basically feel like I'm in Japan everyday. But as far as dating goes, geesh. Chill out, guys. Better late than never.
Dating Fact: A little jealousy here and there keeps the love alive, but when dating an Italian, a wandering eye is not an option. Italians can be very possessive of their significant others at times, almost to the point where they feel as if you belong to them and only them.
Eh, I'm pretty sure that's not only Italians.. "wandering eyes lead to no eyes." Haven't you ever heard that? Oh wait, that's right. I made it up. But really. If Cory sees a girl in an itsy bitsy teeny bathing suit and says "man, she's hot.." then wow. All of the sudden it's man, he has no eyes. Because I probably just jabbed them out with my teasing comb. It's called respect. If you see a guy with a 20 pack lookin' like he just got off the Baywatch set, don't tell your husband how hot that guy is. It does the same thing to them that it does to us- it makes him feel like he doesn't measure up to the perfect guy in your eyes. And you know what? Obviously he does because you married him.
Dating Fact: In the U.S., equality is certainly not a foreign concept. In Australia, however, equality falls into all facets of everyday life, including when it comes time to pay the bill. So don’t be alarmed if you’re asked to split evenly on a date!
Ladies, be thankful to not be in Australia. Just kidddding. I think there are certain times when it's okay to split the check. For instance, you both mutually agree it would be fun to "hang out," not calling it a date; you have dinner, check comes, you split it to be nice. Then he asks you out again. Then he's paying. Well, that's how it is in America anyway.
Dating Fact: In Spain, it’s all about a good game, even outside of the fútbol field. So don’t hate the player, and you know what, don’t hate the game! Try not to be too interested at the beginning, because the Spanish love a good chase. But remember, should you actually be interested, best not to be too coy for too long.
Earth to women, that's an American rule too. And sometimes, it's okay to hate the player and the game; if you're not interested in playing games, there are certain guys you shouldn't go after, and you probably know who that guy is. His reputation proceeds him. With that being said, if you are interested, go for it. It's not all about the chase, and if he's a guy worth being with, you won't have to go for it. He will.
Dating Fact: Don’t be surprised if your interaction with a Russian is… touchier than usual. Many times, Russians will stand within a close proximity when speaking and consider consistent contact a gesture of friendship.
Maybe that's cute in Russia, but I think it's a little creepy. You don't have to be standing so close to me that I can make a prediction about what you had for lunch due to smelling your breath. In fact, I have to beg Cory to touch me in public. NO PDA. But come on, dude. Holding my hand is not PDA. He still has some things to learn.
Dating Fact: Say goodbye to small talk! Germans are all about the real deal. Shallow, superficial conversation is not appreciated in German culture, as they consider it inauthentic and disallowing of a true connection. Time to keep it 100!
Keeping it 100 is never a bad idea, no matter the country. Dating leads to relationships, relationships lead to marriage. If you're not used to keeping it real in the beginning, it won't be a part of your marriage. And that's just not good news.
Dating Fact: Be wary of solely relying on physical gestures to communicate with the Greeks. They often consider even the slightest gestures, like nodding, rude and offensive. Not cool, K?
I almost have no comment, other than Greeks may be way to easy to offend. Don't offend your husband though. Sometimes he makes you mad and you want to just tick him off by pushing just the right button, so you do. Then he does. Then you're both shallow for doing it. So just don't. Life will be easier that way. ;)
* All "dating facts" came from
http://www.buzzfeed.com/h2/osmo/rosettastone/things-you-have-to-know-when-dating-around-the-world?b=1
Dating Fact: In Brazil, two people who fancy one another will usually go out in groups first to see if they like one another. Solo dates will typically only happen should it be leading to a relationship! Now that’s serious.
Okay, I guess it's not a terrible idea to go out in groups. It could prevent all sorts of things, like date rape, dating psycho killers, etc. However, I'd say it's a little drastic to only go out solo if you're interested in a long term relationship. I mean, people act so differently in group settings than one on one. Guys are too cool to talk to you in a group, but all they really want to do is talk to you. So take it from me, guys, if you like a girl, ask her out. Not out to go with your buddies to a burger joint. Out on a real date. Just the two of you. Unless you're a psycho killer.. then you should probably just not ask her out at all.
Dating Fact: In France, there’s no conversation of whether or not you’re actually in a relationship. The French are much more laid-back when it comes to dating, meaning they don’t really believe in the whole concept of dating all that much. You’re either not dating or you’re together. Confusing, no?
Confusing, no. I'm not French, I'm an all American girl, so if you want to be in a relationship, you'd better shout it from the rooftops or I'm gonna find a guy that will! Dating exclusively leads to less broken hearts. French "not dating" leads to all kinds of people thinking they've got dibs on the hottie with abs, while he's got dibs on every girl in a bikini.. confusing, no?
Dating Fact: Ever heard of being fashionably late? Not in Japan, you haven’t! When someone gives you a set time, and you don’t show up exactly when you said you’d be there, you’d better have a catastrophic excuse or risk never being spoken to again. Better never than late!
I'd never make it in Japan. It's not that we, as females, try to be late to every appointment, date or interview known to man. But sometimes things happen. You notice you've got a stray strand of your Afro sticking straight up that needs hair-sprayed down real quick before you leave. There's a cup in the sink you could throw in the dishwasher. You leave and wonder if you locked your door.. there's no sure way to know so you go back to check. It happens. Cory tells me that if I'm not early, I'm late. So I basically feel like I'm in Japan everyday. But as far as dating goes, geesh. Chill out, guys. Better late than never.
Dating Fact: A little jealousy here and there keeps the love alive, but when dating an Italian, a wandering eye is not an option. Italians can be very possessive of their significant others at times, almost to the point where they feel as if you belong to them and only them.
Eh, I'm pretty sure that's not only Italians.. "wandering eyes lead to no eyes." Haven't you ever heard that? Oh wait, that's right. I made it up. But really. If Cory sees a girl in an itsy bitsy teeny bathing suit and says "man, she's hot.." then wow. All of the sudden it's man, he has no eyes. Because I probably just jabbed them out with my teasing comb. It's called respect. If you see a guy with a 20 pack lookin' like he just got off the Baywatch set, don't tell your husband how hot that guy is. It does the same thing to them that it does to us- it makes him feel like he doesn't measure up to the perfect guy in your eyes. And you know what? Obviously he does because you married him.
Dating Fact: In the U.S., equality is certainly not a foreign concept. In Australia, however, equality falls into all facets of everyday life, including when it comes time to pay the bill. So don’t be alarmed if you’re asked to split evenly on a date!
Ladies, be thankful to not be in Australia. Just kidddding. I think there are certain times when it's okay to split the check. For instance, you both mutually agree it would be fun to "hang out," not calling it a date; you have dinner, check comes, you split it to be nice. Then he asks you out again. Then he's paying. Well, that's how it is in America anyway.
Dating Fact: In Spain, it’s all about a good game, even outside of the fútbol field. So don’t hate the player, and you know what, don’t hate the game! Try not to be too interested at the beginning, because the Spanish love a good chase. But remember, should you actually be interested, best not to be too coy for too long.
Earth to women, that's an American rule too. And sometimes, it's okay to hate the player and the game; if you're not interested in playing games, there are certain guys you shouldn't go after, and you probably know who that guy is. His reputation proceeds him. With that being said, if you are interested, go for it. It's not all about the chase, and if he's a guy worth being with, you won't have to go for it. He will.
Dating Fact: Don’t be surprised if your interaction with a Russian is… touchier than usual. Many times, Russians will stand within a close proximity when speaking and consider consistent contact a gesture of friendship.
Maybe that's cute in Russia, but I think it's a little creepy. You don't have to be standing so close to me that I can make a prediction about what you had for lunch due to smelling your breath. In fact, I have to beg Cory to touch me in public. NO PDA. But come on, dude. Holding my hand is not PDA. He still has some things to learn.
Dating Fact: Say goodbye to small talk! Germans are all about the real deal. Shallow, superficial conversation is not appreciated in German culture, as they consider it inauthentic and disallowing of a true connection. Time to keep it 100!
Keeping it 100 is never a bad idea, no matter the country. Dating leads to relationships, relationships lead to marriage. If you're not used to keeping it real in the beginning, it won't be a part of your marriage. And that's just not good news.
Dating Fact: Be wary of solely relying on physical gestures to communicate with the Greeks. They often consider even the slightest gestures, like nodding, rude and offensive. Not cool, K?
I almost have no comment, other than Greeks may be way to easy to offend. Don't offend your husband though. Sometimes he makes you mad and you want to just tick him off by pushing just the right button, so you do. Then he does. Then you're both shallow for doing it. So just don't. Life will be easier that way. ;)
* All "dating facts" came from
http://www.buzzfeed.com/h2/osmo/rosettastone/things-you-have-to-know-when-dating-around-the-world?b=1
Wednesday, August 27, 2014
That's So Annoying.
They probably don't mean to. Getting on your nerves isn't actually his main goal in life. Sometimes it just happens. Here are a few things that I just can't handle, yet they happen on the reg.
1. Why is there urine on the toilet seat?
I didn't know about this until I lived with a man. So, like a nice man, Cory raises the seat. Although he insists that it isn't fair that he has to lift the seat to pee, then put it down for me, he does it anyway. After I almost fell in the toilet a few times in the middle of the night. He tries to say he doesn't use the toilet when the seat is down, but I happen to know it's humanly impossible to live without pooping (sorry about the p word), therefore.. I know he does use it with the seat down. Also, he's over six feet tall which probably has something to do with said urine on the seat. Either way, you put it there. Not me. Please, clean it off.
2. How do you even have any hair on your body? I could've sworn I just saw it all over the sink.
Cory doesn't have to tell me when he shaves his face. Sometimes I notice on my own. Sometimes I see enough hair on the bathroom sink to make a small wig. Either way, you put it there. Not me. Please, clean it off. On the off chance that he doesn't know how, show him. That way next time you find hair everywhere, he can't say he wasn't sure how to get it all off.
3. Tell me you love me or something before you ask me what's for dinner.
Hello, my new title is wife. Not maid. I hate cooking, but that's not the point. The point it, I do it.. usuallly. And before I do, LOVE ME. Kiss me, hug me, tell me I look so sexy in my scrubs. Then you can request freakin steak and mashed potatoes.
4. Do I have any clean pants?
Hmm, you're probably just asking that question because you've already looked in the closet and know you don't have any clean pants so you want me to wash them for you for work tomorrow. At 9 p.m. Yeah, that one actually just happened. Spin cycle is happening as we speak.
This may be a good thing for my marriage, but I can't think of any more annoying things at the moment. I happen to know that there are more unbelievably annoying things that he does, they just aren't coming to mind. #1 and #2 are the worst, but hey, that's life. I can live with cleaning the toilet and the sink. As long as he can live with tickling my back and watching One Tree Hill. All is fair in love.
Wanna know the best part? Cory has little to no idea that he annoys me with these things. It's not likely he artfully places urine on the toilet seat or gently places hair after hair on the sink. Just like I do things that annoy him to no end and I have no idea what they are because he doesn't dwell on them.
Marriage.. ahh. Two people annoying each other for the rest of their lives. What could be better?
1. Why is there urine on the toilet seat?
I didn't know about this until I lived with a man. So, like a nice man, Cory raises the seat. Although he insists that it isn't fair that he has to lift the seat to pee, then put it down for me, he does it anyway. After I almost fell in the toilet a few times in the middle of the night. He tries to say he doesn't use the toilet when the seat is down, but I happen to know it's humanly impossible to live without pooping (sorry about the p word), therefore.. I know he does use it with the seat down. Also, he's over six feet tall which probably has something to do with said urine on the seat. Either way, you put it there. Not me. Please, clean it off.
2. How do you even have any hair on your body? I could've sworn I just saw it all over the sink.
Cory doesn't have to tell me when he shaves his face. Sometimes I notice on my own. Sometimes I see enough hair on the bathroom sink to make a small wig. Either way, you put it there. Not me. Please, clean it off. On the off chance that he doesn't know how, show him. That way next time you find hair everywhere, he can't say he wasn't sure how to get it all off.
3. Tell me you love me or something before you ask me what's for dinner.
Hello, my new title is wife. Not maid. I hate cooking, but that's not the point. The point it, I do it.. usuallly. And before I do, LOVE ME. Kiss me, hug me, tell me I look so sexy in my scrubs. Then you can request freakin steak and mashed potatoes.
4. Do I have any clean pants?
Hmm, you're probably just asking that question because you've already looked in the closet and know you don't have any clean pants so you want me to wash them for you for work tomorrow. At 9 p.m. Yeah, that one actually just happened. Spin cycle is happening as we speak.
This may be a good thing for my marriage, but I can't think of any more annoying things at the moment. I happen to know that there are more unbelievably annoying things that he does, they just aren't coming to mind. #1 and #2 are the worst, but hey, that's life. I can live with cleaning the toilet and the sink. As long as he can live with tickling my back and watching One Tree Hill. All is fair in love.
Wanna know the best part? Cory has little to no idea that he annoys me with these things. It's not likely he artfully places urine on the toilet seat or gently places hair after hair on the sink. Just like I do things that annoy him to no end and I have no idea what they are because he doesn't dwell on them.
Marriage.. ahh. Two people annoying each other for the rest of their lives. What could be better?
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